Can over-analyzing love make your heart weaker?
I have thought about the effects of love for years. I've thought about how every successful relationship and the outcomes; I've thought about every horrible breakup and the effects. In the end, I started taking pieces of relationships to create plans on finding a true love. With every sign of something wrong, I began to question love.
They always say that your past relationships will dictate your future, but I believe it must be a solid mix of past relationships and faith. When I begin to believe that my past relationships are directly related to my present, I disregard the plans God has for my life and my trust in Him. If God is truly going to write my love story, like I said years ago, analyzing my past relationships and letting them dictate my future isn't giving Him the key to tell me what's right for my life.
I always fight against this "heart of stone" view on love that has ruled my life, but I wonder if a paper heart is any better. Is it better to have a strong heart that is very guarded, or a paper heart that beats so weakly sometimes it can't support the weight of love. How do I find a happy medium?
Is it letting go of my past relationships and letting myself start fresh in each relationship, or am I putting too much faith in a person by never questioning our future together? In the end, is there even such a thing as putting too much faith in a relationship?
When I truly love someone, my mind begins to think of all the ways they could hurt me. Is my heart made of stone, where I don't let them in, or paper, where it has been ground down to the point that it can't support love? Anymore, I see my heart as a not-so-happy medium.
So how do I take advice from my past and apply it to the faith I have for my future without giving up on love? Is there a way to give in to a relationship without giving up things I am not willing to compromise on? In the end, is there such a thing as a healthy heart?
